Naysayers

I'm sure we've all been through those little phases or bits of life where people around you actually think they have the prerogative to tell you that you suck. Well no. They don't. As I have made very very clear to a lot of people. The only person that can tell me I suck is me. So you can imagine how rare such an occurrence is.   Took some learning, some sense grilled into my beautiful brain and a whole lot of courage, but I finally know how to say PIGS FRIGGIN ARSE to whoever so much as attempts to put me down.

Funny enough, you know what the absolute best way is? Shutting your face. No reaction. Zilch. Nada. Jacksquat. You get the picture. Because when you do, you're giving your pleasant associate whosoever he or she maybe, the sheer joy of seeing you get affected by what's been said.

As you know, I'm doing two degrees. I've just completed one in Psychology and I'm doing another in International Relations. Long story. But anyway, I've never been to college. ( Yes you can get back up on your seats now). I chose that for a reason which I shall explain in another post maybe. I've been studying via distance ed and it's been quite the experience! That said, recently, I had someone tell me, note that this someone I considered a friend:

" Anyone can sit at home in front of a laptop screen and get two degrees, that's not a big deal. So simple".

I wanted to tell said person, " Well then cupcake, why is it that I'm the one getting a job, doing my masters and pursuing music, wildlife and a career in international relations while you're just sitting on your sorry arse in office all day?"
But I didn't. Most unfortunately for my evil side which was beating my head from the inside.

My entire family besides my parents and my darling older sister, were positively panic-stricken when I dropped out of school and started studying from home. Everyone had this "WTDOUBLEFRIGG is wrong with you" sort of reaction. Not like I gave a pile of llama poop.

Such people cannot be talked to in a mature manner. They are close minded, and if you look carefully sometimes, just downright jealous of you if they keep saying you can't do something, you're not good enough.  Their negative statements don't even deserve a response. And it's solely because they can't stand it when someone is different.

Like Yul Brenner says in the epic movie "Cool Runnings" - "We're different. People don't like different".

Lucky for me I've been watching that movie since I was five. And It's stuck with me till date. I've always felt out of place, not part of the crowd. No I don't mean that in a sissy, AAAAAA I have no social life kinda way. But merely that It is PERFECTLY FINE to not fit in. As long as you do exactly as you please with the right values in place and a smile on your face ( how poetic I am), it's all good.

Sometimes it may seem hard to keep your calm and not react. But you'll see that that action will favour you in the long run. Because naysayers will eventually give up when they know that you're a badass that cannot be messed with.

Never give your contenders, opponents, enemies etc a reason for them to keep at throwing immaturity in your face. When you react, they strike harder. That's all I'll say.

In addition to the above,

you could also tell them either one of these, which is what I have taken to
  



        

The third one is advice for you.

If not? BE A BAD ASS MOTHER MAAN.

Gotsta love the Jamaicans!

Peace darlings!