If it's one thing I've learnt throughout my life and attempted wholeheartedly to implement, it's forgiveness. Everyday, there is some form of forgiving that has to be done. For instance, my day begins with forgiving my slobbery, but adorable canines who have taken it up on themselves to wake me up every morning at some ungodly hour by blessing my face with drool. At one point, I used to want to throw Karma and Sanka out the window, but then eventually I realized how much they love their big, golden, heart owner and that I should just welcome the drool, preferably not with my face in the vicinity though.
I know what you're thinking. " It is SO friggin easy to say ' Oh hey let's just forgive today because it's the right thing to do and everything will be all candied apples and daisies". Disagree. But I will tell you this, the moment you forgive, that shows immense courage. It takes a brave person to let go and move on. Holding a grudge seems so much easier as is playing the blame game. Frankly it's not. It's just wrong. Why? Because it just is. No one questioned Freddie Mercury when he sang a song called Radio GA GA. My point is, that you just have to forgive and not question the situation. The more you indulge in thoughts about WHY and HOW and WHAT FOR, you'll just end up resenting yourself even more and the person or people you secretly want to step on or spit wad.
Personally, I've been through a million kinds of crazy in my life. Sometimes I'd end up thinking, " Is there something god awfully wrong with me?" That's natural. Or like I said, human nature is to instantly blame someone else for something that went wrong in your life. No. It's you. It's all you. Each of us is responsible for what happens to us and in no way is it anyone else's fault what goes down with you in your life. But what other people can do is make it better or make it sucky. It's about you finding that balance and knowing how to differentiate.
It's not about saying sorry, it's not about writing a ten paged email/letter about how you feel or sending a huge bouquet of flowers through a man dressed as a giant teddy bear. It's about letting go. This may seem a little weird, but I don't believe in the word 'Sorry'. Yes I have used it, no doubt. But I find it the most abused word, and extremely pointless. People do things because at the end of it, it's easy to try and fix everything knowing that just that one word, everything will hopefully get better. Another thing I can't stand is people swearing on their moms, and themselves and their great aunt's-pet poodle's-groomer. It's ridiculous. Sometimes desperate times call for saying 'Sorry' and 'Swearing'. but that's just the easy way out of things.
Although I have had a few complications here and there in the 20 years I've survived so far, I like keeping it simple. I don't like arguments, I don't like fighting. No one does! But I've been in my fair share of mishaps and every time, what got me through it was forgiving the other person, even if I wasn't forgiven. Heartbreaks are much worse. You don't know what to think! But the best way to deal with that too, is to just let it go.
You'll find that the moment you genuinely forgive someone, things will fall back into place. You'll start seeing the brighter side of things again.
It's almost 3 AM. This is usually my thinking time. I have no one around me. I put on some nice music and just kick back and relax. I'm what most people call, insane. To me I'm just a nocturnal human being with a highly evolved brain. and a highly narcissistic personality but hey! It's a brutal world out there! And today it just occurred to me that it's fine to feel hurt. It's normal to want to beat the living daylights out of someone. But at the end of all that, if you forgive them. You're good. That's one of the strongest traits you could possibly possess. And just maybe, they'll forgive you too. =)
Two amazing bands. Beautiful lyrics. Happy Listening=)
Miss May I - Forgive and Forget
Pay close attention to the lyrics!
Good night mortals. Don't forget to use deodorant.
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