I've learnt a lot over the past three years. Before that, I was always in my own little world of Crunchie candy bars, football games and the sheer bliss of growls, both musical and canine. I didn't give life too much thought nor the people around me. Now I give it a little more thought than the average teenage ankle biter. And as of recent events there is one thing that will constantly attack you from all sides.
Any guesses?
No?
Rhymes with game!
and is a brutal pain in the ass.
Blame it is.
And holy crap on a cracker, it can mess with your head. But heck, it is a mad skill! Sometimes, It's a wonder the amount of time people spend on it than on other more productive things.
Talking from experience, blame is a defense mechanism. And to me, is a definite sign of cowardice. The moment you blame someone for something, it is a sure sign that you don't have the balls to own up to how you've contributed. It's the easy way out as well as a way to avoid getting directly hurt or smacked in the face. I've been blamed. A LOT. I have also done my share of blaming. And learnt my lesson.
You don't blame unless you're guilty. You find excuses when you can't face the truth. I really have learnt something from recent events and interactions. People WILL blame you. and they WILL do whatever they can to bring you down. But no. You don't blame them back. For any mistakes you made, for being led in a completely different direction. You only have yourself to blame. We're all responsible for the way things happen in our lives, everyone and everything else is just, there. I may sound like a cannibal at this point, but I can't help it. Food is food. and every person is the main course. Other people in your life are the side dish. You can do with or without them.
It's okai to take accusations and blame from people that REALLY matter. Because they care. And everyone has their bouts of anger and frustration. But it is not cool when people play the nasty blame tactic whenever something goes wrong. It shows weakness.
I guess what I'm trying to say here is, screw people who try to keep blaming you. If you feel you are being blamed for no reason at all, you don't need that. Even if it's someone very close. Life is too short to fill it with negativity. It takes a really strong, level-headed and mature person to not dump all his crap on someone else and find excuses. May take a while but eventually you get there. I'm happy because I'm almost there.
If you want something to be different. YOU do it. Pig's arse to anyone who calls you names and tells you that everything is your fault.
So grow a pair and start owning up! Trust me, it saves a lot of time, energy and life is just all bikinis and cocktails in a coconut shell.
And whatever you do? Don't ever blame anyone. EVER.
Blame from nu metal insanities Korn. I love how powerful this song is. The lyrics make sense too This is from one of their older albums and personally, one of my favourites! Their style has changed over the past few years. Untouchables is one of their best!
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